How does a sexual offender look?

I remember reading this tweet during the #MeToo campaign, a campaign about sharing stories of survivors of sexual violence.

Zara Larsson‏Verified account @zaralarsson
“Isn’t it strange how every woman knows someone who’s been sexually harassed but no man seem to know any harasser?”

In my head I did know sexual offenders, atleast I had an idea about them and how to keep some people safe. It was discomforting and at the same time made me realise how we all have an image of a sexual offender. The abstract person who might exist in some other part of the world, but not inner personal lives.

I recently attended a workshop by Enfold India Trust by Donald Findlater who has been working with Lucy Foundation, UK on combating Child Sexual Abuse. He has worked as Probation officer with Adult Sexual Offenders on Assessment and Treatment of male Sex Offenders.

He has been focussing about the “changing nature of sexual violence”. There is a lot of focus on Child Sexual Exploitation but not really enough conversations on Child Sexual Abuse with former discussing about strangers and latter focusing on known people. Data does prove that most of the offenders are known to young people. In all of these conversations, the prevention aspects have not really received its fair share deal of focus. There is so much focus on criminizalistion aspect of it, but there does not seem to be conversations around how to keep premises and young people safe.

Some of the myths are that the perpetrator is a stranger, when in fact it is usually someone you know well and that it can’t happen to our children. Offenders could be family, friends, religious leaders or people who are part of the household.

The knee jerk reaction to any reporting of Child Sexual Abuse in India is setting up of CCTV cameras and sex offenders registry. Donald Findlater shared some of the experiences of United Kingdom where some of the programmes had been more successful that setting up of CCTV cameras.

a) Running of Helpline: Running a helpline with  a service structure in place to address the concerns. Stopitnow.org is running a helpline for adults in the UK to ensure that those people who are troubled by their sexual thoughts about young children can seek help. The program is confidential and ensures that no one seeking assistance is arrested. We hope to stop the adult before he or she abuses a child.

b) The UK has a closed sexual offenders registry where only authorities have access which basically means only people who have been convicted of the crime fall in the list. That appears to have worked far more effectively in comparison to US Sexual offenders registry which has open registry.

He also emphasised on the myth that sex offenders can’t stop. In his experience it was possible to get help and treatment and it is possible to restrain actions.

In his experience a lot of work needed to be done with the communities. There is a need for stronger community bonds with young people and lot more open conversations with young people around sexuality. In the current stream of information on internet, young people were at risk as well as advantage of meeting different people in different set ups. Young people in schools, young people in public places and young people in internet spaces were the different groups that one needed to engage with.

Mr. Findlater did focus on the aspect that most of the young people take time to come out and share their experiences of abuse. A lot of them get abused by the age of 10 years and most of them have very limited understanding around sexuality. It would be more healthy if they had trusted set of people in their lives to have conversations with, which would help them understand the changes happening in their lives. Schools had to become that space which emphasised the need for comprehensive sexuality education.

Schools instead of focusing on CCTVs and waiting for the incident happen, they can ensure that most of their spaces are designed in such a way that young people feel comfortable accessing them. There are no parts of the compounds which are secluded from rest of the space. Every person working within an institution has been trained around sexuality and has been clearly guided through child protection policy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Updated: Helplines and support for people in #Bangalore #makeyourcityinclusive

With all that is going on between Karnataka and Tamil Nadu, life has been affected in Bangalore. Earlier yesterday, Section 144 was declared in the city. Transport has been affected. Shops have shut down. Life has come to a standstill in several parts of the city.

If you are in Bangalore and stuck some place or know of people who need help, then here’s a list of places that you can find help and also check before you venture outdoors:

Travel & traffic update

  • Bangalore City Police Facebook page at 12.56pm 13/9/2016:

BengaluruCityPolice,
Situation absolutely peaceful in city.bmtc,autos,cabs startd plying.BCP,BTP,RAF on high alert.144 still in force.No fresh protest/rd block

Map of affected areas:

You can find details of the affected areas and safe areas before venturing out on this map.

 Helplines:

This data will not be publicly available keeping in mind the safety of these open establishments. However, Ashwath Nair and Jayanth Sridhar can be contacted on Facebook with request for details.

  • You can also whatsapp the phone numbers +917411557555 and +91959176674 if you need any help with transport, stay and help with getting picked up and dropped home.

Update: 2PM, 13/9/2016

  • Bangalore City Police:

Public are requested 2 use Karnataka Police Help Line 18004250100 or 155365 for any emergency/assistance/help

Update: 2:50PM 13/9/16

  • Bangalore City Police:

#CauveryProtests :Reach us on twitter @BlrCityPolice @blrcitytraffic @CPBlr ,FB https://www.facebook.com/blrcitypolice/ & whatsAPP 9480801000 for any info!

Update: 3:41PM 13/9/16

Please contact @BLRAirport for any assistance related to Airport. Their WhatsApp number is +918884998888

Update: 4:14PM 13/9/16

Contact Ashwin Murali on Twitter (@cruisemaniac)  or Facebook to get information about a list of shops selling milk, vegetables, medicines that are reported by others to be OPEN.

Update: 4:27PM 13/9/16

The map with information on shops is now open for public viewing so you can pick up provisions from your nearest spot.

The legend for the map is as follows:

Green – Verified 
Blue – User Generated Data
Red – Shut at the moment

The link to the map – https://www.google.com/maps/d/u/0/viewer?mid=1Jz9gy_tUml6kUSKkxDv4yS0cezY

If any of you still want to make a contribution, please fill out this simple form: https://goo.gl/forms/ezegQesIciDAYbeu2

Update: 4:33PM 13/9/16

Please call 080-22942503 to check if the area you are travelling to is safe or has curfew!.

Update: 5:46PM 13/9/16

According to @BlrCityPolice:

: CrPC Is Imposed In Bengaluru City From 12-09-2016 to 14-09-2016. Strict action shall b initiated agnst miscreants

Update: 5:55PM 13/9/16

If anyone is in need of an ambulance and is finding it hard to get one, you can call on +919986618553 to get help.

Update: 6:02PM 13/9/16

Here’s a free helpline for parents looking to consult a Paediatrician for their child – 080-330-85805. Call this number and they will connect you to a doctor.

Update: 7:09PM 13/9/16

For flight status update, DM @BLRAirport using <flight name> or get updated using their app ‘BLR Airport’ available on Android / iOS

Update: 7:17PM 13/9/16

@BLRAirport says minimal bus services to & from the airport are operating currently. Route 10 to Satellite town continues to stay off road. Travel safe.

Update: 8:46PM 13/9/16

curfew-list-blore

Announced by @BlrCityPolice

Update: 9:09PM 13/9/16

Send photos/videos regarding destruction of public/private property by miscreants to

We’ll keep updating this space. Also request you to let us know through message on Hidden Pockets Facebook page about other updates that you think would help people in Bangalore. We are all in this together! #makeyourcityinclusive