This article is my story as of a woman. I do not mean to insist on my heterosexist perception, rather to share and give a personal viewpoint on an interesting phenomenon.
My relationship with female condom (FC) did not start on a good terms. First time Itried it out I was a very young woman, and perhaps less sexually empowered. At that time, I took a couple of samples from AIDS 2010 conference in Vienna, and thought of trying it. However, sensation vise FC did not give me any good impression.
Couple of weeks ago I attended Women Deliver 2016 conference, where I got to discover a lot of interesting viewpoints on FC. I had to admit to myself that FC is an interesting creation and I never questioned why somebody would contribute to the invention of such type of contraception. Although, after a half an hour-long conversation with the distributors of FC I realized a growing interest in giving them a second chance. As we say it in Russia – first pancake is always a failure.
In this article, I will try to provide you with the different perspectives on FC and I will dedicate a part of it to the experiment that I have conducted recently in order to evaluate the sensation and pleasure part of this mean of contraception. I have also asked my partnerwho participated in the experiment with me, to provide his viewpoint on FC.
Feminist perspective on FC.
One of the strongest disagreements that I had with the FC distributors is that FC is a way to avoid situations where women is forced into the sexual intercourse without a condom. Frankly speaking, I highly doubt that point, as I think the pressure of having a sexual intercourse without a condom does not depend on which condom you are using. In some case, as argued by female condom distributors, woman may insert FC six hours before the intercourse which may avoid the situation where woman is forced into sexual relationships without protection. Nevertheless, the way I see it is that any kind of condom may be easily taken out during the sexual act, or before it, through a strong verbal pressure. That is why I do not agree with the raised statement.
However, I have to admit that using a condom that was specifically developed for female needs is a strong step to understanding that women is free to have sexual contact whenever she wants and is free to choose condom that better suits her needs, either it is male condom or female condom.
Distribution and availability.
I would say that this is probably the weakest part of FC. I currently live in Trbovlje, Slovenia, a small town with the population of less than 14 thousand people. Even candles aredifficult to find in a local store, if it would come to the point of finding FC this will totally be an impossible task. FC are highly unavailable in a regular sail…I ask myself why?
The only FCs I used in my life where the samples taken from the big international conferences, that are attended mostly by people anyhow connected with the field of sexual and reproductive health and rights. So is this the target audience of FC users?
I have heard that FC are also widely used and distributed in African continent, although, I struggled to find any information regarding that in the Internet, so I will have to believe FC distributors who told me this. Even taken these words into consideration I would say that FC are highly unavailable and underrepresented in the contraception market.
At the same point, I would like to mention the high price for a female condom. I have received my samples free of charge, but as Condom Depot shows me, the average price for FC is 6.99 USD (Rs. 471) for a pack of three condoms, which is an extremely high price for young people, who will most likely prefer the cheap price and wide availability of male condoms (MC). Therefore, in terms of price FC are also not gaining any points from my side.
Easiness of use.
Compare to MC, FC is much harder to insert, this may be an issue if you are in a passionate rush with your partner before the sexual act and you do not want to spend next 5 minutes fitting in and adjusting any contraception method.
However, I strongly believe, that the time of inserting or putting on a condom is a matter of practice and experience. If somebody will be motivated to use FC for at least more then 5-7 times then it will be no problem with easiness of its use. In the end, you may always practice using on some home supplies (e.g. watermelons with the hole).
On the bright side, I would like to mention that I let my partner put the condom in me, which now became an amazing pregame for us and gives a lot of pleasure and excitement.
Also to Check :
Comment from the partner: To me it is very exciting to get to know new ways of contraception because there is always the possibility to enrich your sex life. The devotion to my partner gave me a lot of energy to do some research how a FC is used and inserted correctly. It helps to approach this topic as broad as possible. You can read reviews, medical articles, talk to friends or even watch pornography to gain useful information.
I never tried FC before, but knowledge gives you a lot of confidence. Honestly spoken FCs are not so difficult to use, it appears to me. Be in a safe place, communicate with your partner and everything will be fine.
I am not going to thrill you with excitement that FC is significantly better in terms of sensation, any kind of condom is still a condom, however I do believe that properly insert FC feels a little bit better compare to MC. It also gives a different sensation to your partner, which makes you more excited during intercourse and sexual experience overall better and more enjoyable.
Comment from the partner: The way I see it from the male perspective using a FC is a pretty amazing feeling. To enter a woman’s vagina without a Male Condom (MC) wrapped tightly around your penis feels somehow more natural. Still you have to keep an eye on something during intercourse but not more than using an MC. A few tips that might help you. Use lubricant in the inside of the condom, between penis and FC. Also, try not to block the clitoris too much with the stacked out FC, as it will probably decrease the pleasure of your partner. In any case. Try to adapt the usage of FCs to your personal needs and see if it works for you.
Overall, I must mention that for the invention, that is over 36 years old, FC still has a lot of gaps and social stigmas that need to be overcome. Starting with its unavailability on condom market in many countries in the world, ending up with the correct advertisement of this contraception method.
Perhaps, some improvements may be also possible in terms of easiness to use and access to FC of less economically stabled groups of population. Despite this, I will surely suggest FC for anybody as something interesting, thrilling and unusually to try. Nevertheless, do not forget about the fact that it should be tried more than once to make your sexual experience more enjoyable and pleasurable.
Article by: Evdokia Romanova
Art by: Evdokia Romanova
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